I am begging and warning you. I repeat, do not try it. I hope by the end of reading this, I have convinced you as to why you should not try this.
The once-beautiful woman — now haggard and tired, like a worn leather bag — looking despondently into the mirror and considering what once was.
Perhaps she is wondering how time managed to creep up on her like this. The eyesight rapidly deteriorates after this, and doing most things becomes harder and slower.
Everything becomes a chore. However, as someone who is only 18, it can be hard to relate to these images as I have yet to age at all. Thoughts of hip replacements, the crunching of arthritic knuckles and the approaching horizon of your own mortality all seem very far off.
This is not to say that you have not had your own experiences of ageing. Rather, for someone like me, who is still in the beginning of life, this concept of ageing cannot be directly applied. Instead, I have had a very different experience of ageing. Coming of age is the time in which you learn all the difficult lessons that early life provides.
That time you tried and failed, the first heartbreak, the bitter sting of being the last one picked for the Netball team. You have those necessary experiences to grow as a person and emerge as a better, more mature and grounded version of yourself.
I think of those iconic bildungsromans. Jane Eyre for instance. I read this book at age 15, and then again at age 18, and each time it took on a different meaning.
However, on my second reading, I began to look into the notion of coming of age as it appears in the book. Over its course, Jane transforms from the uninhibited, underestimated and troublesome child to the more eloquent woman. After spending a significant amount of time in subservience and debt to the other characters, with her life dictated by them, she finally emerges as someone who they can respect and rely on.
The self-doubt and confusion she suffers at the beginning of the story gives way to her later certainty and a much more autonomous and self-assured character.
Towards the end of the novel, as opposed to being the one who is kept in the dark, it is she who switches on the light. Instead of the transition from vitality to decay, I think more of the transition from child to adult.
Crossing that invisible but anticipated boundary and emerging as the fully transformed version of yourself. What does this coming of age metamorphosis look like to a child?
At ten or eleven, this may manifest itself as that early, stifling awkwardness. The feeling of not quite fitting into your own body.
Your limbs are too long and stringy. You struggle to make them all work at once. You wonder when you will become as confident as them.
They interact in a way which still feels foreign to you, full of attitude and confidence. Then you arrive at age fifteen or sixteen, perhaps now at last slightly more comfortable in your own skin, but hungry to move onto the next phase of your life. You want nothing more than to be that adult figure.
You want to be the clean, polished and finished version of yourself. For most of us there is a point which marks this arrival.
A universally known point: Like a golden, star studded, vodka flavoured, legal club admitting enigma. This is the point when you have arrived.
When you come of age and arrive at the best version of yourself to date. Extravagant parties are thrown and celebrations continue well past the day itself. This is the point, all shrouded in mystery, and it is bathed in the excitement of having finally arrived.
Having come of age. But why at this point in our lives do we choose to place so much emphasis on ageing? Why do we choose now to celebrate it, as opposed to shy away from it as is often the case later in life?A Reflection on Bullying and Growing Up Posted: October 5, | Category: Blog; By Rossana Villaflor, Teacher.
One of the most frustrating things children experience while growing up is their inability to control many of the things that go on in their lives.
Adulthood and Growing Up: A Multidisciplinary Approach to the Humanities and Culture Natalie Goldman WGU 07/14/ Adulthood and Growing Up: A Multidisciplinary Approach to the Humanities and Culture One of the most fundamental themes in art and culture is the development of the individual from childhood and adolescence, into adulthood.
You “come into your own,” meaning that you have a firm sense of who you are as a person and are glad to be in that position. Coming of age is the time in which you learn all . Self Reflection - Growing up, getting old. to make certain decisions myself and have my own space without being judged by my parents or siblings.
would shape you into a witty elderly person. I remember the feeling of completeness and security I had growing up with my mom, dad, grandparents, and extended family members.
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